Who is the boss in your house?

Wondering who makes the final decision in your house or who very much influence the decision. What to eat, where to eat for eating out, where to go for leisure time. Does it need to be child friendly?

Many men used to say his wife is the boss and women say otherwise. If you have young growing up kids...is your child the boss of your family? Does your child needs, wants and requests included in your decision making?

When eating out, during my girl was at the age of 2 plus, I normally order food that can be shared with her. The venue has to be cooling (if air-conditioned better still), has wide choices of non spicy food, short waiting time, has baby chair. In short she influenced my decision of what I eat and where we go to dine.

When going out for leisure time - most of the time shopping. We tend to choose shopping centres that has wide walking space, cooling, has pet shops, indoor playground etc.

When going for holiday trips, if local (cuti-cuti Malaysia), driving is the best option. Alyssa sleeps most of the time throughout the whole journey. Hannah is happy when she is well fed, sitting comfortably on her baby child (when she was younger) and fully occupied with her magnetic drawing board. Travelling for us was quite an ease. When Hannah was almost 3 years old we started going overseas trip. For me the worst was to carry the back pack full of her necessity like flasks for hot water and drinking bottles during visits to 'tourist' area. Not to mention when she wants to sleep which is a MUST for her then my horror starts. I remember carrying the sleeping Hannah for 2 hours plus walking inside Singapore Zoo. She refused to sleep in the stroller.

This one thing I am very proud of them that is they are very obedient children. They speak with indoor voice when we are eating out. They will buckle up when riding in a car. They normally will preocuppied themselves with books or phonegames while waiting for flight.

I believe when we have children or planning to have children, many aspects of our life circle around our children. For example where we live, what furniture to buy (glass or wood), what car (how many seaters) and so on. But on how we bring up our children, it has to be OUR decision and not theirs.

Happy Parenting!

My teachers say ...

One day as I was cleaning my car, I over heard a conversation between a mother and a kindergarten teacher. My neighbour is a childcare centre – kindergarten.

The mother has an older son whom now is in primary school. The kindergarten teacher was asking about the boy. She remembered the boy was very naughty and cried for months in the beginning. She was telling how the boy used to disturb other kids and etc.

On the other hand, the mother was trying to defend his son saying some good traits of his son and explaining why he was crying that time. Every negative comment from the kindergarten teacher about the boy, the mother will put in some positive remarks.

Pity the little boy. Perhaps it’s in our Asian culture that we speak and remember more of the bad stuff rather than talking something nice. At least the mother was not our typical ‘mothers’ that are being too modest in praising their children.

I’m glad that Alyssa was remembered as a quiet, sweet girl, also likes to smile. Hannah – all the teachers (even those who did not teach her) tell me she is quiet and a very good girl. Can’t agree on the quiet part but she does her school work very nice and neat.

What will your son’s or daughter’s kindergarten teacher say about your child?